A Personal Note to Couples from Rob Jackson -

I think it's safe to say that none of us imagined the highs and lows that we've experienced as a result of our marriages. Many of us were simply not aware that we had the life experiences that correlate with sex addiction and coaddiction [relationship with an addict]. 

As Christians I think the issues of sexual exploitation, trauma, addiction, and coaddiction are especially shame producing until we begin to open us to a few safe people who are gracious and understanding. The support of a caring community of a few, makes such a difference.

I've worked with couples contemplating marriage, having just returned from the disastrous honeymoons, and in every stage of marriage and remarriage thereafter. I've seen both young and old try to contend with sex addiction, and I've learned the following from their experiences.

• You can't beat this addiction on your own.

• Shame delays recovery and always has to be processed in light of God's truth.

• Initially most addicts piecemeal their confessions in a best effort to preserve the relationship.

• Initially most coaddicts believe they're responsible for the addict's condition, and many try to govern the recovery process.

• Couples find little help from local churches.

• Most couples hardly know who to trust and how to find a qualified service provider.

• Both addict and coaddict have comparable developmental issues and family of origin issues to process.

• Many couples want to apply their faith in Christ to the marital discord, but don't really know how to.

At ChristianCounsel.com we're committed to restoring marriages. We want to help you through the recovery process and pray that Christ gives you individually and collectively the inner transformation beyond the addiction. If you contact us, I believe we can help. We want to be a part of your essential community. I'm certain that God honors biblical approaches to healing and reconciliation. I hope to hear from you soon.

Blessings,

Rob Jackson
Licensed Professional Counselor
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
National Certified Counselor